I’m happy to participate in the blog tour for Shifter’s Heart, the second book in the Heart Song trilogy by Desiree Williams! Shifter’s Heart was released last week, and I can’t recommend it enough – it’s an exciting romance with great humor, likable characters, and a love story that’s equally steamy and sweet. In a nod to this wonderful romance, I’ve asked Desiree if she’d be willing to do a guest post on love and relationships, and she’s kindly obliged.
After reading her advice, don’t forget to enter the giveaway at the end of the post – you could win a great prize pack with jewelry and gift cards!
Desiree’s Tips for a Good Relationship
Hello, everybody! Before we get started, I want to personally thank Angela for allowing me to guest post on her blog today. It really is an honor.
Go pull up a chair and hang out, as we chat about two tips for a good relationship.
I insert a laugh right here because most guys shudder when they hear the term—relationship. Either they’re commitment-phobes, jaded to what love could be like, or they don’t want anyone to read past their tough-guy facade to know that, deep down, they’re a big softy. But in reality everyone wants a relationship at some point in time. Life was meant to be shared with someone we love.
I’ve worked with a lot of teens and young adults, and have seen their ups and downs with relationships. As a writer, my imagination wanders to what the relationships could be like for my characters. When I set out to create each story, I want the characters to have something that goes deeper than the physical. An unbreakable connection.
Now, don’t get me wrong, all the tingly feelings and stolen kisses are great. They make us smile and feel all warm and fuzzy inside. But if that’s all the relationship is based on, then there isn’t any depth. It won’t be long lasting.
Tip #1: Be emotionally invested.
A good relationship is solid when the two individuals are emotionally connected, in a way that they know the other individual. They know their likes, dislikes, what they crave, what they aspire to become/achieve—they know because they’ve invested the time to listen. That’s not a razz on the guys, girls are just as guilty for not being invested listeners.
Challenge #1: Order a meal for your significate other the next time you go out to eat, without asking them what they want first. And please don’t go through the fast food land. Choose something nice! =) If you can successfully order their meal by knowing ahead of time their likes and dislikes, then that’s a good sign you are—or are on the path to becoming—emotionally invested.
Tip #2: Be YOURSELF
There is too much pressure to be “perfect.” I’ll tell you right now, being perfect is overrated. Save the time, energy, heartache, and just be yourself. How can someone truly get to know you, when you aren’t even being you? Be unique, be YOU, because you are the one and only you.
Challenge #2: When you’re getting all fancied-up for your dinner to complete Challenge #1, ask yourself: am I dressing to impress myself, or am I dressing to impress everyone else? If it’s the latter, please stop. You are precious and worthy and don’t need the validation of someone else to give you self-worth. (And insert sappy virtual hug here. =))
So, do you dare to take up my challenges? Hmm? If so, I’d love to hear about them!
Special thanks again to Angela for allowing me to stop by. I had so much fun. Blessings!
You can find out more about Desiree and her books at www.desireewilliamsbooks.blogspot.com.
About Shifter’s Heart
As the flames of Varkadon spread, war rips through the Shifter Territory…
With the Aldonnian kingdom celebrating the news of her brother’s soul bonding, Laelynn seizes every opportunity to drive herself to the brink of exhaustion. If her body is worn, then her brain would be too tired to dream. Laelynn knew the men who’d captured her were gone from this world, but that didn’t stop the haunting images from plaguing her mind. Not even the pesky thorn-in-her-side Shifter Prince could keep the dreams at bay. Though Dustan’s commentary through their mental bond had kept a lingering smile on her lips, despite the battles that rage within her.
Yet when Dustan distances himself Laelynn questions the connection between them. Those fears rise when her own talents begin to morph and growth into the unexpected. Torn between love and faith, Laelynn strives to find the purpose behind the evolving gifts. What she discovers is far more than she ever imagined.
As tragedy befalls the Shifter Territory and brother battles against brother, Laelynn knows what must be done. Face her demons and triumph, or she’ll never claim the song of her heart.
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